What to Do About Friends Holding You Back
For the most part, you probably don't need to make any radical changes to who you hang out with. As long as you understand your friends might have jealousies about your self-improvement goals, you'll be able to recognize them and deal with them.
Just remember that if your friends tell you something is "impossible" for you to do or you "can't" do it, they might just be trying to save themselves from feeling hurt. Once you accomplish your goal they'll eventually adjust. Plus, you might give them the inspiration to break down their own assumptions and set "impossible" goals of their own.
Any of you have great supporting friendships? Any of you notice when your friends become jealous and sabotaging?
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掣肘之友,何以处之?
汝固不可绝交于友。见妒于友当明断而慎处之。友之谓不可者,或为己故也。
苟若成,其必心服。或将弃臆测而效汝就其功。君蒙友助邪?抑见妒邪?